Dealing With Him When He’s Horny

MEN get horny almost all the time. So when your man feels horny, do you find it disgusting and perverted? I don’t because it’s only normal. So you need to be careful how you respond to his advances, which can either strengthen your relationship or destroy it!

Most ladies feel offended when their men say or act horny? Are you that woman that feels disgusted? Do you feel angry at how he “just sees you as an object?” If you feel any negative emotions against your man’s sexual advances, I have two things to tell you. First, if you and your man are still dating, and are not going steady yet, then it’s okay to feel disgusted and offended. And if he insists on having sex with you, even if you’ve told him you didn’t want to, then it’s best to just part ways with the horny little prick. But if you’re married or planning to get married soon, then please be careful! If you show any disgust or anger towards his sexual advances, he just might lose his love for you. No joke. This is serious stuff. And I’ll try to explain why.

All men need satisfying sex. You read that right — as perverted or primal as it sounds, all men need satisfying sex with the woman in their lives. And it’s a really, really big need. Trust me. Let me give you an idea of how strong his need for sex is. Think about your need for affection. When it comes to love and affection, your need for it is very strong. Right? His need for sex is just about that strong. Now here’s another question: What do you do when your man doesn’t give you the love and affection you need? You look for that love and affection elsewhere. Right? You meet your girlfriends. You go shopping. You chat online with complete strangers. Some women go to a male friend who’s sweeter, more caring, and more affectionate than their current partner. And as you might guess, a lot of affairs have stemmed from this! And it’s all because the man didn’t meet his wife’s need for love and affection. Here’s the bad news: When you don’t fulfill your partner’s need for sexual satisfaction, he does the same thing, he looks for it elsewhere! He turns to pictures of naked women on the Internet, watching porn, erotic literature. And some men turn to a female friend who’s more sympathetic. Have you ever lost the love of a man because you didn’t or wouldn’t meet his needs?

Now a simple way to affair-proof your relationship or marriage is showing your man a lot of affection. Let me say that again: Affairs start when a woman doesn’t receive the affection she needs from her husband, or when a man doesn’t receive the sexual satisfaction he needs from his wife. That’s why dismissing, criticizing, or feeling dismayed at his sexual appetite is dangerous. You instantly put your relationship at risk! The more you satisfy his need for good sex, the more he’ll give you the love and affection you need, which in turn makes you more open to satisfying his sexual needs and so on and so forth. What’s more, a man whose needs are met will also be able to give you the other things you desire from him — time, financial support, hours of intimate conversation, and so on. Here’s the lesson: The most effective way to affair-proof your relationship or marriage is to simply meet your partner’s needs. Now, some of my girlfriends have said to me that it’s not their fault, that if he showed more love and affection first, then they wouldn’t hesitate giving him the sex he needs!” If you feel that way, then I’ll tell you the same thing I said to my girlfriends: “You mean you’re too proud to make the first move? What’s more important, your pride, or a happy, loving, nurturing relationship with your man?”

Today, sadly, too many women choose their pride and then they blame their husbands for destroying their relationship. It’s pretty crazy. These women had the power to save their relationship, but wasted it. All because of a silly thing called “pride.” I hope you never make that mistake! The fact remains: If you want your man or husband to love you and only you, then you’ll have to find ways to satisfy his sexual needs no matter how “perverted” you may think they are. Why? Because when he realizes you can satisfy his sexual needs — every single one of them—- then he’d be crazy to look for his sexual satisfaction elsewhere!

Of course, sex isn’t a man’s only need. He has other important needs: Fun, respect, visual stimulation, a quiet and peaceful home, etc. And yes, these are needs that you’ll also want to meet or else your relationship will never be 100% affair-proof.

So,  change your attitude today and give your man what he needs, that’s the only way he knows you cherish him and love him. Don’t give pride a chance to destroy your relationship.

To the happiness we all deserve, good luck in love and life. Cheers.

Lady Gbeborun

26 responses to “Dealing With Him When He’s Horny

  1. Lady Gbeborun,

    Although you might feel as if you found the solution/reason…. I believe it was very one sided.
    Why should the women have to always be the first one to let go of their pride and give their lovers the sex they crave? I think both sexes should lower their pride with each other. Men also have a lot of pride. They will act different in front of other people and wont show as much as “love” and “affection” as they do when they have intentions to have sex with their girl/wife.
    I enjoyed your article a lot but i feel this article needs to be extended a bit. I wanted to know your intake on this: What if the female lover lowers her pride ever so often and gives her horny man satisfying sex…. But even after all that, the only time he shows love and affection is in bed or before getting into bed. Now what?
    Thanks,
    M

  2. i have been married for almost 5 years ( got no children yet)…at the beginning of my marriage my husband had very low sexual desire.. we were having sex once or twice per week! despite of all my efforts on making him more sexually active everything failed! i tried different styles of sexy lingerie, edible stickers/ bra, panties, dirty talking & even telling him straight forward that i am horny and want sex still NOTHING!!! and i wasn’t making a big deal out of it, if he is not in the mood he is not in the mood ( although that i really really wanted to have sex) and i remained faithful and loyal to him all the way….but a year ago he changed completely! he is demanding sex every night and if i am sick or troubled he never get easy on me and spare me instead he will make a HUGE fuss and he will scream and fight bcoz i denied him his right!!! now i’m asking for a divorce bcoz he is acting like a complete jack ass…! what hurts me the most is the fact that i let go my pride just to try to make him happy, i put endless efforts, love, care & understanding into this marriage but nothing worked!! i believe with men, no matter what u give up for them or do for their sake, if they wanna cheat just for the sake of changing they will do it! it’s not our mistake as women!!!!

  3. A beautiful piece. If every wife should heed the advice here, there will be little or no wranglings in our marriages because as a man I know from experience that nothing hurts a man’s pride/feelings than being refused at that crucial moment of intimate need. In a man’s mind, it is like temporarily breaking the marriage and if that attitude persists from the wife, she would, as you rightly pointed out, unknown to her, be telling the man to meet his needs elsewhere. That’s how “the other woman” comes into the picture and the wife becomes the loser. More power to your elbow for this bold article that differs so refreshingly from many so called feminist write ups that pitch wives against their husbands, turning them to rivals and creating so many failed marriages.

  4. This is insane. “How to deal with him…”. Really? Why are you with him in the first place if you have to deflect “his advances” as if you’re some robot that has absolutely no sex drive whatsoever? Sex shouldn’t be used to control a relationship; Sex is an intimate act shared between two people. Stick to platonic relationships if you’re not interested in sex.

  5. I know this post is old but I feel inclined to fully disagree on your view of why affairs begin. Affairs occur because people would rather be selfish and find satisfaction elsewhere without talking to their significant other first and express their frustration for not getting their needs met. People don’t push their significant others to cheat. Cheaters choose to cheat without addressing issues in their relationship.

    • I agree with you…Im out of a long relationship and that article was making me awful…trying to figure out where I went wrong but in the end they will cheat regardless. ..I think it’s just plain selfishness on the end of the cheating partner….thanks for your post

  6. I think this argument is definitely flawed. Men also have a brain and a heart not just a penis. Women have learned to control their sexual impulses and men should too. I feel as though if my man cant control it, then that’s too bad for him cause ill leave him and he can be stuck with the whore he had sex with, and she can cheat on him 🙂
    Men get away with so much bitching and quite frankly I don’t have the time for it.

    • Then be single forever. If you don’t need a man just for sex in same way man also don’t need a woman just for giving her attention and affection.

  7. This is a very interesting point. Where i see the counter argument i, as a warm blooded male who has come across this artical for an obvious reason, have to agree to its core point. I have been in a relationship for many years but have recently realised that my wife does not like the attention i give her, and although its no where near unnessesary, i am really struggling with the one sided “no verbal or physical attention” rule that she imposes. I have wondered if admitting to my wife that i really find her attractive to look at or that i have strong physical feelings at the time is really a bad thing. I’m more understanding now that sex and physical attraction is normal. Why would a man or even a woman for that matter litrally stop expressing themselves in a 50/50 relationship? Sex or physical attention is only part of a relationship, Im experiencing this first hand, and believe me, it does make you start to look elsewhere for the attention. Trouble is, you have built a family or a life, and every other aspect is perfect. Are you risking it all? Are you throwing it away? Will looking elsewhere even save what you already have? I’m starting to think, that these feelings and desires deserve attention, or everyone can simply accept the effect caused by ignoring them. I know and understand what it means to me, but will my wife?

  8. Lady, you are a fruitcake. What are you, 90 years old? This is the twenty first century and no woman should be responsible for any man’s happiness and vice versa.

  9. Wow. This article is a piece of shit. You are basically saying that a woman should have unwanted sex so her partner doesn’t leave her and/or cheat on her. That’s delusional. You are so narrow minded that I feel bad for you. It must really suck to have the foundation of your relationship be sex. This isn’t an example of mutual respect. Not even close. You are diminishing men to sex machines, incapable of controlling their urges. That’s insulting. Oh, and blaming an affair on the woman because of her pride. That is BULLSHIT. Again, a decent human can control himself, distinguish right from wrong, and make decisions not involving his penis. I hope you have gained some degree of self respect right by now and stop spreading toxic ideas.

    • If only you can experience the feeling of a man being horny. The way we are built, we can only try to control the urge. But we never succeed. I don’t think you can train a dog not to like bones.

      • Excuse me man, WE women have expérienced Raging hormone at hight level on daily basis and mostly in our teenagers age and we have controled ourself in our manner and our sexual drive so it is not an excuse. Nature is well made man have a brain that controls their hormones and if you dont use your brain is that you don’t want to control point blank

  10. First of all, this is pure bullshit! Pride is extremely important especially when you’ve repeatedly given your spouse affection and great sex! Yet he still refuses to meet your needs for affection. So just because a women refuses to continually be ignored doesn’t mean she has too much pride. Maybe shes just tired of always being the one to make the first move, with no results. Woman, if a man doesn’t show affection in the relationship any longer except for when he’s horny than he doesn’t care anymore. He’s just use to you and shows affection only to get what he wants, and satisfy his own needs. The moment someone he finds more appealing crosses his path he’s gone.

  11. This is an extremely dysfunctional piece of writing. You obviously need some therapy, and I don’t mean that in a spiteful or hateful way, just that what you are saying is not a normal way to think. I feel you have had some past trauma that you have not dealt with and it’s effecting the way you feel about men and sex. Have you had a really bad sexual experience/s with a man? Honestly, please go and talk to a sex therapist about this, you don’t need to feel this way.

  12. hmmn i am still wondering y a woman should give up her pride 2 d man she loves.what d helll

  13. Giving your man sex when he wants it DOES NOT keep him from cheating. When people cheat it’s because they want to. A man should also be respectful of a woman’s need as well and not act like a horney dog when a woman is not in the mood.

      • Men must be willing to empty their balls with à kleenex on the toilettes everytime they fell the need to urge simply as that. Women are not your sex slaves men are slave or their Dick so they can masturbate Our vagina is not a bag where you can put all your dirt and is not belonging or entitled to mâles .Good luck

  14. I’m sure the author has good intentions, but this article is juvenile at best. Any mature adult understands that their is No way the women or the man can make their relationship affair proof. People have a multitude of issues that pop up all through life unexpectedly. One partner may be completely satisfied in bed, but simply want his/her cake and eat it too. Some people just make selfish decisions at times. Also, people often grow up and grow apart due to other things like goals, world views, or even disagreements on how their children should be raised; all of these examples may happened while the couple are still having great and very frequent sex. Let’s not forget that sometimes we are just attracted to other people more. It’s all about decisions and sacrifice. Their has always been cheating in relationships but the older generations were more likely to stay together and raise their family because they saw the benefits that came along with having two parents in the home. The sacrifice comes in to play when the individual in the relationship gives up something they want. For exampl, I may be totally head or hills for that guy I work with because we share so many goals and we get along great; he just happens to be sexy as hell. I could have him if I choose, but I choose not to because I would much prefer to keep my family unite strong. I understand I may always have an attraction for this other guy but I also understand that I can’t have everything I want. So for the author, I agree both partners should try to be sensitive to the others need. Even by doing so nothing is 100% affair proof though.

    • I completely disagree with this article. This is totally bullshit! (Sorry to be blunt)
      Sex shouldn’t be used as a tool for making a relationship more stable or perventing the guy from cheating!!! ( i am actually wondering where and in which century you are leaving right now?!!!)
      Guys have to control their lust and urge for sex. Actually this is the major difference between humans and animals. We are capable of “controling” our needs.
      Please stop spreading these wrong and discriminative ideas. Women are not sex tools for guys and men are definitely not sex machines without a control switch!

  15. This article really helped me understand the importance of meeting his sexual needs. But he’s always horny! And I don’t always want to satisfy him because (and I know I sound snooty) because it’s too much work! I don’t want to give him a blow job for twenty minutes because my neck and jaw start to hurt… is there anything else I can do to let him know it’s not him… it’s the work

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